ENFJ and INFJ

NFJ lyrics

The Ni in NFJ lyrics brings a lot of talk about where the future is headed. That might be for an individual or it might be for a group.

The Fe can bring relatability in a variety of ways, whether making the talk happier, upping the encouragement, or generally trying to make things universal. Fe-Ni is more likely to talk to a group in the first place, while Ni-Fe is more likely to try to convince a bunch of people that they are or should be a group (because the group needs to exist to serve a future vision). Fe-Ni is more likely to say “we” throughout the lyrics; Ni-Fe is more likely to be impliedly talking to a group with “I” and a sort of “y’all.”

Se (for ENFJ lyrics) and Ti (for INFJ lyrics) are likely to serve as the evidence around which the group will rally – “look around you” for the former and “this all adds up” for the latter.

NFJ music

What I’ve said about Fe being happy in the first slot and upbeat in the second slot makes a difference here. If you start listening to the ENFJ pile first, it will be a happier group of songs than the INFJ pile, because it’s important to the lyrical message if lyrics exist.

Since Fe cares more about mood than anything else, NFJ music doesn’t go with a genre, but it’s helpful to the Ni if the song definitely is whatever it is. I suppose that, if the lyrics were to have a twist in the message, then the music would twist with them. But otherwise, it makes more sense to make sure they’re in lockstep.

Some ENFJ songs

“Battle” by Wookie (Lyric and music typing)

Although this UK garage classic about perseverance is partly written in a one-on-one setting, it leads to a chorus that is Fe backed by Ni, so that’s why it’s here.

Every day is like a battle, but we’ll overcome
When we get back in the saddle, faith will bring us home

There’s that “we,” with the focus on getting through, supported by faith in the future. The future is serving the group’s overcoming. One of the bridges underscores that:

I can always rely on my faith to get by – that sounds Fi/Ni by itself…
We all can if we try – Ah, there’s the Fe!

In calling the song “Battle,” it seems to be about the shared experience of battling first, and the solution of faith and the future second. That’s how I settled on ENFJ over INFJ, though it’s a close call.

“Russians” by Sting and “Right Here, Right Now” by Jesus Jones (Lyric typing)

As both of these involve the Cold War but from different factual starting points, it’s interesting to group them together as ENFJ songs.

“Russians” is not a happy song – when I was a child and my mom would play it, I would start crying because it sounded scary to me. So it might seem odd to put it in an Fe-dom area. But its Ni message about the future is all about shared humanity, even in the face of regimes long reputed for not valuing lives. It takes a strong belief in Fe to try this message in the first place. And it’s all backed with Se data in the verses about the world as it is – there’s an Se presence but not so much a Ti presence.

There is no monopoly of common sense
On either side of the political fence
We share the same biology
Regardless of ideology
Believe me when I say to you
I hope the Russians love their children too

This song still makes me tear up a bit. Writing this book in 2022 gives it some extra relevance, but I think about this point of shared humanity any time there is a tragic political divide anywhere.

Fast forward from Sting in 1985 to Jesus Jones in 1990, after the fall of the Berlin Wall and as the Soviet Union was collapsing, and the ENFJ view of the world gets to be more sanguine. “Right Here, Right Now” is one of the very few songs stating unbridled optimism about the world situation that has ever made sense, and it is ultimately from the same perspective.

I saw the decade in, when it seemed the world could change in the blink of an eye
And if anything, then there’s your sign of the times
I was alive and I waited, waited
I was alive and I waited for this
Right here, right now, there is no other place I wanna be
Right here, right now, watching the world wake up from history

These lyrics are individual, but they are excited because humanity is having a shared experience of manifesting a new reality. He was waiting for this reality to happen – he saw it coming – and now it’s here. He’s had an Ni dream realized about real societies. It’s hard to tell whether he’s happier for the Ni fulfillment (his dream) or Fe fulfillment (society’s uplifting), but given the subject matter, I’m putting Fe first.

Some INFJ songs

“Land of Confusion” by Genesis (Lyric typing)

I’m less convinced on INFJ than the others, but I think there’s a good case for it.

The initial talk of the group that’s taking action isn’t one that Phil Collins is a part of as he’s singing. The chorus talks about a group (“my generation”), but at the moment he’s a bystander.

There’s also a Ti-Se judgment at the beginning:

Now did you read the news today?
They say the danger’s gone away
But I can see the fires still alight
They’re burning into the night

Arguably, the Se data is serving a Ti conclusion: I don’t believe the media, because I’ve got this other perspective.

This is the time, this is the place, so we look for the future
But there’s not much love to go around
Tell me why this is a land of confusion

And the lyrics conclude with this call:

Stand up and let’s start showing
Just where our lives are going to

If he were singing as an Fe-dom, I would expect him to already be talking like he is a part of the group, rather than on the outside looking in. He’s talking about what he sees with an understanding that he has to join action already in progress. It’s like there’s been an Ni-Ti loop – everything adds up to a terrible vision for the future – and he’s getting out of it with his Fe parent: by showing concern with the tribe.

“Rise” by Samantha James (Lyric and music typing)

The first half-verse sends you down an Fi road, but after that it’s firm INFJ stuff. There are several if-then statements about how the future will work:

In every way you need to let go
You’ll see all your dreams will follow
People rise together when they believe in tomorrow
Change today to forever – this life keeps moving
Open your mind and see we have everything we need
Dream of reality, fulfill its destiny

Samantha’s vision of the future is of people working in harmony. You could say the lack of specifics about the future come off as Ne (she sings earlier that “Life is a mystery we need to embrace”), but I think it’s that the sole object of her Ni vision is an abundance of Fe. The focus is on turning today’s faith into tomorrow’s reality, and when that happens, a happy group comes along.

“Virtual Insanity” by Jamiroquai (Lyric and music typing)

Between this song and the excellent “Revolution 1993” off Jamiroquai’s first album, there’s a lot more focus on what he’s seeing in the future, and then trying to talk the world generally about what to do. He’s trying to convince you that his Ni vision – the subject matter of which takes an Fe shared belief before any action can take place – is how things will be. The call to action, without any actions listed, is an Fe-first thing to do.

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